The Misdirection of Blame

All too often we blame ourselves when people let us down, hurt us or disappoint us

Why do we persecute ourselves because of who other people are not instead of celebrating who we are?

All too often we believe this is a reflection of who we are

That we are perhaps not good enough

Not good enough for people to show up for us in ways that are meaningful to us, ways we would treat others

And all too often the shadow of blame is cast at our own feet

The shame of alone and the loneliness of shame

Enveloping us and our very sense of self

I have made this mistake many times

But instead, these times are there for us to recognise difference

To appreciate ourselves

And the actions that we take towards others

Which in fact, are the expressions of our essence

Instead, we should stand in the beauty of our souls, remembering not to see the actions of others as being in any way related to who we are

Knowing that we are more than enough

Even if some seem to completely miss the fact

Never allow the mistakes of others to form calluses on your heart, hardening your view of the world, reducing your capacity to be truly you

It's like punishing yourself twice, you may have been wronged, but that need not be your fault nor should it affect how you show up in the world

Never feel bad about yourself because of who other people are not …..

Stay open, soften to the unique possibilities of you, know that only what you do, not what is done to you, defines who you are.

Much love

Scott

(written on a spin bike after a very rough week)

#courage #mentalhealth #selfcare #stfu